Radical Love Requires Radical Acceptance

In order to truly love someone you have to love them just the way they are – no
conditions, no exceptions. Many times we think we know someone and commit to
loving them only to find out that they have flaws we didn’t know about. Does that
mean we can reject them or require them to change?

Marriage vows usually include “for richer or poorer, in sickness and in health,” but
when it comes down to it – we tend to put conditions on our love for our spouses,
our family members, and our friends.

What would it look like to really love and accept someone without condition? Are
we capable of accepting others no matter what? Are we willing to embrace the
whole person even when we see their worst qualities?

Often it is those who are the hardest to love who need our love and acceptance the
most. And the amazing thing is – when we love them as they are, they tend to
become more lovable. When we accept others with all their faults – even those that
repulse us, they are changed. They begin to see themselves through our eyes of
love. Radical acceptance and radical love create the environment people need to
change into better people. Only when they feel that kind of loving acceptance, do
they feel the freedom to be who they are and to risk being real. And then, as we
sharpen one another like stones rubbing together, we change.

Jesus modeled this kind of radical acceptance and love. When a woman was
brought to him by her accusers, he said: “Let him who is without sin cast the first
stone.” Even when being executed for a crime he didn’t commit, Jesus prayed for
those who nailed him to the cross. He risked loving the “unlovable” by healing
lepers and forgiving prostitutes and blatant sinners.

If we are honest, we must see that we too are sometimes hard, if not impossible, to
love. Only when we know we have been accepted, loved, and forgiven anyway,
can we show the same radical acceptance and love for others. Jesus insists that
we must forgive even as he has forgiven us. That’s pretty radical – but with his
help we can do it!

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About Bill Kuntz

Christian Life Coach and psychologist, husband to Wanda, dad to Kathy and Kristy, adopted son to God. I enjoy writing and blogging. My new passion is writing and speaking to inspire others to be all that God made them to be. I work with couples, families, and individuals (particularly young adults and adolescents) in my psychotherapy practice. As a life and leadership coach, I specialize in assisting pastors discern God's highest calling and to achieve high goals without sacrificing connections with family and friends. Please call if you or someone you care about needs counseling or coaching. My phone number is 314-647-4695.

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